Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Your rebellion is not my rebellion

In life, I am a bit of a rebel. Most people equate being rebellious with dying your hair blue or orange or purple, or some think it means arguing with your parents, contradicting them, telling your Teachers to F-ck off, being disruptive at school or having minor run-ins with the law or just being contrary or even nicking cars.

No. I am not like that.

My rebelliousness has been illustrated by showing differences with what I was brought up and rules which society insists that you conform to.

I was brought up to respect people older than me. That is horseshit. I respect people of all ages, whether they are older than me, my age or younger than me, but respect has to be earned not given.

If someone older than me is acting like an asshole or a prick, then I wouldn't want to know them, and I would not respect them, regardless of how old they were. I was brought up not to cheek people older than myself.

If someone older than my age is talking crap or says something I object to, then I might either tell them so to their face or cut them dead and blank them.

If I am talking horseshit and a 20-odd year old told me, I would say "That's your opinion" not "Watch who you are talking to".

Similarly if I was a kid and some older adult had sexually molested me, why should I have stood for that and let them do it?

I was brought up to give my seat up on a bus for someone older than me. If I was on a bus or train and I saw a person with Cerebral Palsy who is younger than me or has difficulties in walking, I would give my seat up for them automatically. I was walking the other day and this bus pulled up. I helped this woman, aged about 22, get on a bus with a pram. Not because I felt it looked good or was good for my image, but because I felt it was the right thing to do.

If I saw a sprightly or vigorous 70 year old get on a bus, I would refuse to give my seat up for them. If I saw someone who was 70 struggling to walk, I would give my seat up for them. I wouldn’t tell or demand a 16 year old to stand up for me just because I am older than they are.

The same applies that you shouldn't swear in front of women and kids. I have heard some foul-mouthed men. I have heard some foul-mouthed women and I have heard foul-mouthed children. Effing and blinding it constantly.

There is this idea that we should criticise kids and revere the elderly; I have met some nasty, unpleasant and spiteful old people and pleasant and well-behaved children and vice versa.

We are told we shouldn't speak ill of the dead. What if that dead person is a rapist or a paedophile or a serial killer or a total and utter bastard? What if you didn't like them? Why shouldn't you speak ill of them? That is total and utter hypocrisy.

That is my rebellion. Not stealing cars or telling teachers to fuck off or dying my hair.

My rebellion is not what many people call rebellion, or think of as being that, but it is to me.

Friday, 12 September 2014

Imagine if it had been the other way around

The Joshua Davies crime and incident finally was written about by Fiona Phillips, no relation to myself, in the Daily Mirror. http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/aspergers-boy-paralysed-escaping-bullies-4172673

That however, was the exception, rather than the rule. There is still a general indifference and silence about it from the mainstream media. The local news where he lives probably have covered it in depth, but it is not the same as the national press. It won't have the same impact. Nor would it if there was a campaign on social media.

I saw this article from the Daily Mail newspaper, on Monday. A paper not usually known for its devotion to such matters, though they did launch a campaign to jail the killers of Stephen Lawrence, the black teenager murdered by a white racist gang in April 1993. Those responsible were finally put behind bars in January 2012.


Then there was this website:


I fully agree with these causes, but there should be something like this regarding hate crime in society, with celebrities and high profile figures backing it and speaking out against. The present position with hate crime is where we were with homophobia 30 years ago and racism 40 to 50 years ago.

The only reason I can think that the Lee Rigby incident and the 82 year old woman's murder last week both made national headlines for days on end, had pages and threads devoted to them on social media, columns written and generated national outrage, whereas the Joshua Davies incident has been virtually ignored by social commentators, columnists, the national media and social media, is due to three factors. Identification, fear/paranoia and manipulation of the public by the media.

Think about it. Most of the British population are NT's. The media is ran by NT's. Therefore, they see that the Joshua Davies incident as more or less irrelevant. They aren't Autistic. Many of their family isn't Autistic. So why should it bother or concern them, as they feel it is unlikely to happen to or affect their lives?

The public and masses have been, since the 9/11 trade center attack, been whipped up into a frenzy regarding terrorism. They see that the beheadings could happen to anybody at any time, and fear they might be next, when in reality you are about as likely to be run over by a bus. That is not to say that beheadings are acceptable by any means or that I am condoning them! Far from it. They are brutal, savage and horrid. You must have a deeply disturbed mind to even think about something like that, let alone doing it.

It is an hard fact though that bombings and beheadings don't, and aren't, thankfully, common. Yet many people are paranoid that they will be next to be blown up or beheaded, but on the other hand, treat the isolation, marginalisation or bullying of disabled/special needs people with indifference.

I have seen negativity and demonisation creeping in media coverage of Autism and Asperger's in recent years. Like what has happened with Schizophrenia and ADHD. You mention ADHD to people and often they ask why you aren't in prison or bouncing off walls or stealing cars. Once a stereotype gets formed in the public's mind, it takes a lot of hard work and education to change it.

There was a school shooting in the USA in December 2012 by somebody called Adam Lanza, and it understandably received intense and worldwide coverage, but so did the fact that Lanza allegedly had Asperger's. Earlier this year the media were at it again when somebody else, allegedly with the condition, went on a rampage in the USA and shot six people and injured 13 others before ending his own life.


I just wonder what coverage Joshua Davies would have received if he had done that, in the national media and social media, or if he had been responsible for an NT person falling from a bridge, breaking his spine in four places, and never walking again as a result?

Friday, 5 September 2014

This happens and the media just don't care

On the 17th August 2014 an 18 year old male with Asperger's, fell, broke his spine in four places, and will, as a result, never walk again.

You probably won't have heard about this in the media. It has hardly been mentioned. Not on social media forums, apart from ITV News on Facebook. It has hardly been mentioned on the national news.

He now will have to face and come to terms with a permanent and life changing, not to mention mentally and physically devastating disability, as well as his Asperger's, which presented challenges in its own right. This was compounded with society misunderstanding him, and ignorance and bigotry.

You might say that this is a tragic event or accident, and very sad for the young man, and his family, but, not really worth mentioning. Tragic and devastating accidents such as this do happen. There is one exception though. This wasn't an accident. It was caused because he was running away from bullies, whose hands Joshua had been suffering at for five years. Earlier this summer he refused to buy alcohol for local youths. For that, somebody jumped on his back, and started hitting him on the back of his head. Joshua retaliated and was charged for assault, making him scared to defend himself again.

South Wales Police said it dealt with three allegations of assault against Joshua between April 2011 and June 2014. This still happened. Such is life. Such is the law.

This incident has hardly been featured on the national news. No politicians or celebrities have spoke out against it. If they have, I haven't heard them. There's been no condemnation of it from Ed Miliband or David Cameron or Nick Clegg. There has been no national uproar or outrage. There have been no campaigns demanding that those responsible are brought to justice. Nobody has launched a "Justice for Josh" page on Facebook or Twitter. It hasn't made the front pages of hardly any national newspapers.

Yesterday an 82 year old woman was beheaded in a garden in North London. This was an horrific and barbaric murder. It also received gallons of media attention and publicity. Umpteen threads forums devoted and dedicated to it on social media. Pages and pages in the national newspapers. People demanding the shooting, hanging, and repatriation of all Muslims. It seems much of the public are enraged, just as they were, (rightly) over Lee Rigby's murder on 22nd May 2013, another horrible, brutal and savage crime.

The victim has been named as Palmira Silva. I send my condolences to Ms Silva's family. Her murderer, Muslim or not, is a brute, who has to be locked away for a very long time, if not for the rest of his natural life. If you can have such a disregard for human life, then you are a danger to the public and should not be mixing with them.

Why though, does one cruel and brutal crime receive wall to wall coverage and attention and the other almost indifference?

What has happened to Joshua is a hate crime, which is as much as a social evil as racism, but whilst the latter is now a stigma (Rightly so) in society, the former is hardly mentioned or recognised. If those responsible are caught, they should receive at least five years in prison, their parents should be prosecuted and they and their parents should pay for his care for the rest of his life.

If the media aren't talking about the beheading in North London, they are talking about the middle east situation, which was partly created by us invading Iraq illegally in 2003. Or they are talking about X-Factor and Big Brother.

It makes you want to weep.

I think a Facebook group should be set up in support and demanding the convictions of those responsible.

Imagine if they had done it to a black man or an OAP. Imagine the outrage that would be occurring instead of the almost indifference from the media and society we are currently getting.